Speak no evil, see no evil, hear no evil... have no fun!
Joking aside though;
Some think that multiplicity is fake. Some are adamant that people either have imaginations that have gone rabid, they are extremely mentally unbalanced or that psychiatrists planted the idea of multiplicity in their brains. Many think multiplicity is real but that it means something's wrong in your noggin and needs adjustment. Some think it is all in our heads (even though in our situation that's not far off in a literal sense.) Some think that people do it to get attention or even have false memories. Some folks think that if someone is multiple they had a very abusive childhood, probably with sexual assault and /or ritual abuse. Well, now I'd like to give our view points on these topics if I may.
Multiplicity is very real, and I for one am extremely happy that it is. If it were not, I (Jazz) would not be typing here, nor would Dande be pulling to go play with her dog, Tracee pulling to make the corn husk dolls she's working on, Dark to play with her ferrets etc. etc. etc. I've been accused of being mentally unbalanced by Helter (of our inner realms) several times and have no doubts that others have at least thought it of me. But all in all, I'm fairly typical.
We've seen shrinks before, but not for our multiplicity, so don't believe they would have planted something. They didn't know we were plural, so how could they? Nor have we ever been hypnotized. We don't seem to be "hypnotizable". I know, that's not a word, but you get the idea. We've tried to hypnotize ourselves, even went to see a hypnotist to try an accomplish that, but without much success.
I know factually of things in my past that have been verified numerous ways. So false memories are out. To get attention, well, let me see. The psychiatric community wishes to label us very mentally ill, the social community believes we are mass murders, child abusers or something to be afraid of. So don't think too many would be seeking attention to get that sort of image painted of you.
That leaves the subject of why someone is multiple. We are third generation multiples. Both our mother & grandmother were plural. So there's a genetic predisposition. Additionally as I said on the "Who we are" page, we have memories that are shared by all that are of a very young age. We also had quite an abusive childhood. So are we a "natural" multiple or are we a product of abuse? Perhaps both? *shrug* We don't know, don't care and we don't think it's the least bit important.
We are aware of and friends with several multiple groups who know of no abuse in their past and will proudly tell you they are natural multiples.
Unlike what you might have seen in the movies, multiples are varied in who they are and how their system operates. One multiple group is as unique and different from the next, as different as you are to your neighbor's niece. Labels and categorizations are inadequate to describe the multiple experience.
Many humans pride themselves on their multicultural, postmodern acceptance of people who are not like them. Some say they're proud of their religious tolerance. Some show their tolerance and /or acceptance of the gay community or people with disabilities. Yet extremely few accept that multiples exist! Does the word "oxymoron" fit here? In other words, they do not accept us as we are.
You are different from the person you get your mail from, or your local grocer. Yet, all of you are able to read this web page. Does that mean you're all a mailperson or the grocer? Of course not, that's absurd! Stereotyping just doesn't work! That you're all reading, or are having this read, is about the only common denominator, right?
Just as multiple systems differ from one another, so do our opinions and ideas, likes and dislikes, values and morals. Most multiples will tell you that the variety I just spoke of is electrically alive in their own systems. Yes, there are some common denominators, but they are much less than our uniqueness.
Some of our realities are otherkin, walk-ins or soulbonds. Some believe they are plural due to abuse, some believe they are multiple naturally and all of these differences are valid realities. But regardless of how our personal systems operate we accept our own realities. Most also accept that the realities of others as just as genuine as their own. We know we exist :-)
My personal view is constantly evolving as I learn more. At the moment my thoughts are along the lines that we are all born plural. If we're born in the right circumstances, we remain actively plural. But in this western society, I believe that whatever is not considered "normal" or "appropriate" is pushed, trained, forced or stomped out of us. Yet no one has any difficulty saying "my artistic side wrote that poem" or "my inner child" must have been present etc. Heck, many believe in a christian god that claims it is plural -- the father, son and holy spirit are suppose to be three entities in one body.
How can we be so advanced in our world and sciences and not be able to comprehend that more than one person can share a body? Can you look at a young infant and honestly tell yourself you don't see more than one potential personality just waiting to evolve? Do we have the brain so figured out that we know there's no way there can be more than one person to a body? Or that it's possible to exist other than in a human form? Or that realities can be as varied as the number of tumbleweeds in the Sahara?
We don't know much about the realities of most other systems unless they share it with us. What we do know is that each person's reality is exactly that and NO ONE has the right to question that. We do know beyond any possible doubt that being multiple is as natural a way of living as having different colored skin, religious values or a sex preference. ~~
Ok, Jan, the body’s sister and I (Jazz) were talking the other day, arguing semantics and such. The conversation really got me to thinking though.
It use to upset me to be called a personality. I think I was confusing the term with a negative connotation though, that if I was referred to as a personality, I wasn't considered a person. Another reason it use to offend me is that I thought being referred to as a personality was analogous with being referred to as an alter or an aspect. To me both those words pretty much referred to me as a non-person too.
What my (Jazz) thoughts about it now has changed quite a bit.
Seems most anywhere I looked for the definition of personality, it was interchanged continuously with the word person, that each was the same as the other. You can't be a person without a personality. That personality can have aspects or traits to it which can either be seen in a positive or negative light. "She has a lazy personality" "She has a very cheerful personality" But those are aspects of a personality or person.
I suppose the long and short of it is that you can call me a person with a really cool personality, but don't even consider considering to call me an aspect, fragment, alter or any other form of non-person! ~~